Remember the
blog project I did in 2010 with three other women? Well, Froggie decided to resurrect it with me and we each got to invite another friend to join us. She invited a mutual friend (someone I met through her) and I invited a friend whose blog I really enjoy reading. So now it's Froggie, Mom of Many, Moma Rock and Merrylandgirl. Hope you enjoy the topics that we'll be exploring!
This week, Moma Rock picked the topic: Believe in it, or not (or only think of it on occasion for entertainment value), horoscopes are highly popular and very interesting. What is your horoscope sign? Do you think you resemble what is said about you? And, do you take any stock in it?
Before reading ahead, first see what everyone else had to say on this topic:
Froggie
Mom of Many
Moma Rock
Maryland is famous for their crabs, so maybe I was meant to move here. Yes, I still keep Kosher and hate shellfish anyway, but in the zodiac, I am Cancer, which is the crab. So it just makes sense for me to live in Maryland now!
I used to check my horoscope in every magazine I got, but a lot of the stuff didn't make sense to me, like "when the moon is behind Jupiter on the 7th day of the 12th month..." I didn't really see it as a prophecy for my life.
A long time ago, I came across these horoscope books at Borders. They would compare my sign with all the other signs for potential love matches. They also included a CD of songs that fit my personality. (There's really funny story to go along with that.*) When I looked up Scorpio, the sign of my boyfriend, the match was so perfect that I got all emotional! In the past, I had dated Libras, even knowing they weren't a good love match for Cancer in the long run. Those relationships eventually fizzled out. (However, I have maintained great friendships with the female Libras I know.) And yet here I am, 10 years later, with the same Scorpio who is now my husband! So the love matches between signs do hold weight for me.
I know that I am very much like my sign from what I've read in the past, and have made it my mission to find out just how much! I looked up Cancer on
Astrology-Online.com. It was the first site I came to, so that was what I was going with. I'm sharing a few things from there that describe me:
"It is a fundamentally conservative and home-loving nature, appreciating the nest like quality of a secure base to which the male can retire when he needs a respite from the stresses of life, and in which the Cancerian woman can exercise her strong maternal instincts. The latter tends to like and to have a large family. `Nest like' is an appropriate adjective for the Cancerian home, for its inhabitants tend to favor the dark, mysterious but comfortable type of house which has something of the air of a den about it, a place which belongs to the family rather than existing as a showcase to impress visitors."
If nothing else, I have strong maternal instincts! I am obviously protective of my children, but I also play Jewish mother to my friends. I like to make sure everyone is taken care of! Given that it was my husband's doing to have the house remodeled, I can't vouch for making the home into a showcase. I do tend to keep rooms dark or low-lit whenever I can. I find it cozier. My husband will have lots of lights on though. (I wonder if that's a Scorpio thing.)
"That is not to say that the Cancerian is unsociable, just that for them there is a time to socialize and a time to be solitary, and this is part of the apparent contradiction in their nature."
I am definitely a mix of wanting to go out and do stuff and wanting to lay around on the couch in PJ's while watching TV or reading. When I'm at work, I always read during lunch, even when the option to socialize is available. If I go out with someone else for lunch, I talk with them and I do respond when people are in the kitchen and want to talk with me. However, I just love being buried behind my books whenever possible!
"Their intimates, however, may see a very different character, one with a sympathetic and kindly sensitivity to other people, especially those they love. They are able to identify with the situations of others because of the keenness of their imaginations. They are often over-imaginative and prone to fantasy, sometimes trying to shape their lives to fit some romantic ideal."
I am TOTALLY like this! I tend to get wrapped up in other people's lives and try to provide a listening ear or comfort whenever it is needed. I am definitely idealistic though.
"They are appreciative of art and literature, and especially of drama, where the spectacle and ebb and flow of action and feeling particularly excite them. They may themselves possess considerable literary, artistic or oratorical talent. Their sharp ears and talent for mimicry can sometimes give them success on the stage, though their tendency to be emotional may make them overact."
Case in point...I love to read and I love theater, especially Broadway. I also love when a book, movie, TV show or play has an intense level of drama to it. I like surprise endings and cliffhangers too. And I do some good impressions of celebrities, as well as of my kids. :)
"In their personal relationships they are mentally a mixture of toughness and softness, often emotional and romantic to the point of sentimentality in their fantasies; but in real life and in marriage, their loving is not so sentimental but tenaciously loyal. Even if they have affairs (and they may do so, for the male in particular is open to sensual stimulation), their first loyalty remains to spouse and family, of whom they regard themselves as the protector."
So true once again! I would never ever have an affair and it disgusts me to see women doing that on TV and in books. You should have seen how mad I got while watching Smash. And I am the one making sure the house is locked up at night and everyone is safe and sound. I tend to be overprotective at times. With my friends, I am a softie, but I also tend to dish out the tough love when it's needed.
"Both the Cancerian man and woman love unreservedly, giving much and asking little in return - in fact, one of the most important lessons they have to learn is how to receive gracefully. They are too easily influenced by those they love and admire, and swayed by the emotion of the moment. They are also loyal friends, the negative side of their faithfulness being clannishness, the narrow patriotism of "my country right or wrong"; and closing ranks in suspicion and coldness toward outsiders."
Does that mean I need to be more timely about writing thank you notes? I do enjoy receiving gifts and will thank people profusely, but I'm terrible at sending out thank you notes. It takes me months! Most of the time, I also don't ask people to bring things to my house when we have Shabbat meals.
However, I don't think I am cold toward outsiders unless it's someone who has seriously pressed my buttons. I'm usually very open and welcoming to people and love getting to know new friends. Starting my chick lit group and blog was a way of letting a lot of new people into my life. And there are people whom I am blessed to have met as a result! In my neighborhood, I'm always welcoming to new people and I introduce them amongst my friends whenever I can.
"Cancerians have a retentive memory, particularly for emotionally laden events which they can recall in detail for years afterwards. they are strongly governed by childhood memories and since they live intensely in the past in memory and in the future in imagination, a chance meeting with someone for whom they had an unrequited love, even if they thought they had conquered the feeling, will easily rouse the emotion all over again."
Once again, this is SO me. People are astounded by the stuff I remember from years and years ago. Little details they wouldn't have retained at all. I also tend to go off in dreamland with my imagination, sometimes turning myself into a celebrity!
"Physically they are average to below average in height, with a fleshy body and short legs in comparison with the rest of them. Their hair is usually brown, their faces round, their complexions pale, their foreheads prominent, their eyes small and blue or gray in color, their noses short, perhaps upturned, and their mouths full. They sometimes walk clumsily."
I'm short, a bit overweight (I am still working on this aspect) and have brown hair, pale skin and blue eyes. My nose is not short, as I've been compared to Jennifer Grey from her "Dirty Dancing" days. I am definitely a klutz though!
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Given all the comparisons I found, it goes without saying that our horoscope signs have a say in our personalities. I know Moma Rock is also a Cancer, which is why we connect so well. It will be interesting to see if everyone else is as much like their sign as I am like mine.
*Since you've stuck with this post to the very end, I will now share the funny story. When I was still just dating my husband, a friend of mine was dating a guy whom she and I both worked with. There was a misunderstanding a while back regarding "Six Feet Under" and I thought she had given him the nickname "Rico" as a result. So we started calling him "Rico Suave." His sign was Libra, so I looked at his book to see if he was meant to be with my friend, who is a Leo. One of the songs on that CD was "Rico Suave." How crazy is that?!? He unfortunately passed away a few years back (may he rest in peace), but I still have this memory from almost 10 years ago.
